Friday, January 3, 2014

Out with the old AND the new

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I'm ashamed to say I own too much 'stuff'. And I procrastinate daily on cleaning it out. A 'declutter' is way overdue so I've put together some hints gathered from across the net in the hope that, by sharing with you, I'll motivate myself. Maybe you have a similar problem?
 
Declutter for 15 minutes every day. It’s amazing how much you can get through if you just do it in small increments like this.(This is quite appealing to me; it takes away the overwhelming nature of the job...maybe I'll start with 1 minute...)
 
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Don’t allow things into the house in the first place. Whether you’ve begun decluttering the living space, or you’ve just completed it, stop bringing in new stuff NOW. (Yes 'but' it's okay this week while the thrift shops are closed, but what happens 'next' week...)
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 Whenever you’re boiling the kettle for tea, tidy up the kitchen. If the kitchen is tidy, tidy up the next room – it’s only 3 minutes but it keeps you on top of everything. (Pity I drink coffee and my machine needs vigilant attention. And what's with a kettle that takes 3 minutes to boil!?)
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Use the “one in, two out” rule. The rule: whenever you bring in an item, you have to throw away two other items. (Okay, 1 dress in, two tissues out...)
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If you haven’t worn an item in 6 months, sell or donate it. (But what about those 'special' pieces - you know the ones I mean - the wrong size but gorgeous fabric, or the vintage coat that only comes out once a year. I don't think so.)
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Declutter one room (including any closets, desks, cabinets, etc.) before starting on the next one. Spending time in that room will feel so good, and it will be so easy to keep clean, that it will motivate you to do more! (A possibility but seems a tad daunting)
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Internalize that your value is not in your “stuff”. It is just “stuff”.  Hoarding is a selfish act. (I 'know' my value isn't in what I own; and I'll give away to anybody who visits and takes a liking to something - within reason, but I'm not a minimalist at heart, I like a bit of 'stuff' around me.)
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Have someone else help you go through things. They don’t have the emotional attachment that you might have, but can still recognize if something should be kept. (This is a great tip. Just be warned, 'some' people, such as my daughter, are a tad too free with the 'OUT' command and you may find yourself having to purchase a whole new wardrobe.)
Books you’ve read immediately get recycled among friends, family or local libraries. (But, but, what if I'm feeling low and need to reread a poem, or a passage, from a fav book to lift me up?)  
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Images of this lovely neat home via Roushiji Deco

Oh dear, where will it end. So dears, there's quite of few of you following this blog. I'd like to invite each of you to drop by my place - whenever you're in the neighbourhood - and I'll send you home with some 'stuff'....

Monday, November 11, 2013

The sea's a magnet...

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When I came across these glorious underwater photographs from Elena Kalis I ached, yes ached to be back at the ocean. My breathing gets slower - in rhymn with the waves maybe - and I have no trouble slotting into a slower pace of living. It's as if the sea takes me back to the essence of me.
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And I love people watching by the sea. It's as if we're drawn to it like a magnet. I mentioned this to a friend and she said maybe it's the desire to 'go home'. The anthropologist Loren Eiseley said it well 'Every time we walk along a beach some ancient urge disturbs us so that we find ourselves shedding shoes and garments or scavenging among seaweed and whitened timbers like the homesick refugees of a long war.'
Maybe it's time to pack the car and succumb to the magnetism...
 
 

Saturday, October 26, 2013

Halloween Party and Giveaway

Welcome to the Sleepy Hollow Halloween Party. It’s scarey here, but there could be treats if you can cope with reading on....
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frida Kahlo print from my store, ARTDECADENCE
What’s that? Shhhhhh… I hear a voice, a deep and tad menacing voice, drifting on the wind...
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What fearful shapes and shadows beset his path, amidst the dim and ghastly glare of a snowy night! With what wistful look did he eye every trembling ray of light streaming across the waste fields from some distant window! How often was he appalled by some shrub covered with snow, which, like a sheeted spectre, beset his very path!

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How often did he shrink with curdling awe at the sound of his own steps on the frosty crust beneath his feet; and dread to look over his shoulder, lest he should behold some uncouth being tramping close behind him! and how often was he thrown into complete dismay by some rushing blast, howling among the trees, in the idea that it was the Galloping Hessian on one of his nightly scourings! (from the Legend of Sleepy Hollow, by Washington Irving)
 


Ooooh, I think he’s dropped some treats from his saddle bag! Look there below, it’s any 8x10 print from my etsy store!
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To get your hands on this treat, see below. Don’t forget to leave a separate comment for each entry.
1 Entry – Leave a comment on this post
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3 Entries - Blog, tweet, facebook this giveaway and leave a link. Getting the word out gets you 3 entires! Go ahead and leave three comments. You can do this as many times as you want.

This giveaway is open worldwide and the winner will be chosen by random number generator on November 2nd at 11pm etsy time.

Enjoyin the Halloween vibe? Want more? You're in luck as many bloggers are having Halloween Parties today thanks to our gorgeous host, Vanessa of A Fanciful Twist. Go visit Vanessa for links to the other party hosts. Happy Halloween!

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THE WINNER!
Random Number Generated is No 33 making Butterfly 8)(8 Bungalow the winner! Have been in contact. Thanks so much to all of you for visiting here; it's wonderful to feel connected to so many lovely people across the globe. Blessings to you all!

Monday, October 21, 2013

Another world...

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Behind your image,  photo laurasavaafricangirl640_zps7f55f850.jpg below your words,  photo laurasavamalepierrot_zps6140543a.jpg above your thoughts,  photo laurasavahandsonhead640_zpsbfac069a.jpg
the silence of another world waits.  photo laurasavaglowingheart640_zpsf906a08f.jpg Words by John O'Donohue. Art by Laura Sava.

 Aren't these images and words stunningly beautiful. I hope this week you get time to be still and see the perfection that lies within.

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Brainwave....

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I'm sharing an excerpt from Chapter One of a newly released fabulous book, Mindfulness for Health: a practical guide to relieving pain, reducing stress and restoring wellbeing by Vidyamala Burch and Danny Penman, available HERE.
 
Pain always seems worse at night. There is something about the silence that amplifies the suffering. Even after you’ve taken the maximum dose of painkillers, the aching soon returns with a vengeance. You want to do something, anything, to stop the pain, but whatever you try seems to fail. Moving hurts. Doing nothing hurts. Ignoring it hurts. But it’s not just the pain that hurts; your mind can start to suffer as you desperately try to find a way of escaping. Pointed and bitter questions can begin nagging at your soul: What will happen if I don’t recover? What if it gets worse? I can’t cope with this . . . Please, I just want it to stop …

We wrote Mindfulness for Health to help you cope with pain, illness and stress in times such as these. It will teach you how to reduce your suffering progressively, so that you can begin living life to the full once again. It may not completely eliminate your suffering, but it will ensure that it no longer dominates your life. You’ll discover that it is possible to be at peace, even if illness and pain are unavoidable, and to enjoy a truly fulfilling life.
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We know this to be true because we have both experienced terrible injuries and used an ancient form of meditation known as ‘mindfulness’ to ease our suffering. The techniques in this book have been proven to work by doctors and scientists in universities around the world. In fact, mindfulness is so effective that doctors and specialist pain clinics now refer their patients to our Breathworks centre in Manchester and to courses run by our affiliated trainers around the world. Every day we help people find peace amid their suffering.

Mindfulness for Health and its accompanying CD reveal a series of simple practices that you can incorporate into daily life to significantly reduce your pain, anguish and stress. They are built on Mindfulness-Based Pain Management (MBPM), which has its roots in the ground-breaking work of Dr Jon Kabat-Zinn of the University of Massachusetts Medical Center in America. The MBPM programme itself was developed by Vidyamala Burch (co-author of Mindfulness for Health book) as a means of coping with the after-effects of two serious accidents. Although originally designed to reduce physical pain and suffering, it has proven to be an effective stress-reduction technique as well. In fact, the core mindfulness meditation techniques have been shown in many clinical trials to be at least as effective as drugs or counselling for relieving anxiety, stress and depression. When it comes to pain, clinical trials show that mindfulness can be as effective as the main prescription painkillers, and some studies have shown it to be as powerful as morphine. Imaging studies show that it soothes the brain patterns underlying pain and, over time, these changes take root and alter the structure of the brain itself so that you no longer feel pain with the same intensity. And when it does arise, the pain no longer dominates your life so much. Many people report that their pain declines to such a degree that they barely notice it at all.
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Many hospital pain clinics now prescribe mindfulness meditation to help patients cope with the suffering arising from a wide range of diseases such as cancer (and the side effects of chemotherapy), heart disease, diabetes and arthritis. It is also used for back problems, migraine, fibromyalgia, coeliac disease, and a range of auto-immune diseases such as lupus and multiple sclerosis, as well as being effective for such long-term conditions as chronic fatigue syndrome and irritable bowel syndrome. It’s also useful for coping with labour pain. In addition to all these uses, clinical trials also show that mindfulness significantly reduces the anxiety, stress, depression, irritability and insomnia that can arise from chronic pain and illness. Researchers are continually finding new conditions that can be eased with mindfulness.

Mindfulness Dissolves Pain and Suffering

Mindfulness-Based Pain Management uses ancient meditations that were largely unknown in the West until recently. A typical meditation involves focusing on the breath as it flows into and out of the body (see box, below). This allows you to see your mind and body in action, to observe painful sensations as they arise and to let go of struggling with them. Mindfulness teaches you that pain naturally waxes and wanes. You learn to gently observe it, rather than be caught up in it, and when you do so, something remarkable happens: it begins to melt away of its own accord. After a while you come to the profound realisation that pain comes in two forms: Primary and Secondary. Each of these has very different causes – and understanding this gives you far greater control over your suffering.
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Primary pain tends to arise from illness, injury or damage to the body or nervous system. You could see it as raw information being sent by the body to the brain. Secondary pain follows on close behind, but is often far more powerful and distressing. Secondary pain can be seen as the mind’s reaction to Primary pain.

Pain’s volume control

The mind has tremendous control over the sensations of pain that you consciously feel and how unpleasant they are. It has a ‘volume’ control that governs both the intensity and duration of the sensations of pain. This is because your mind does not simply feel pain, it also processes the information that it contains. It teases apart all of the different sensations to try to find their underlying causes so that you can avoid further pain or damage to the body. In effect, your mind zooms in on your pain for a closer look as it tries to find a solution to your suffering. This ‘zooming-in’ amplifies your pain. As your mind analyses the pain, it also sifts through your memories for occasions when you have suffered similarly in the past. It is searching for a pattern, some clues, that will lead to a solution. Trouble is, if you have suffered from pain or illness for months or years, then the mind will have a rich tapestry of painful memories on which to draw – but very few solutions. So before you know it, your mind can become flooded with unsettling memories. You can become enmeshed in thoughts about your suffering. It can seem as if you’ve always been ill and in pain, that you’ve never found a solution and that you never will. So you can end up being consumed by future anxieties, stresses and worries as well as physical pain: 
What will happen if I can’t stop this pain? Am I going to spend my life suffering like this? Is it going to keep on getting worse?
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This process happens in an instant, before you’re consciously aware of it. Each thought builds on the last and quickly turns into a vicious cycle that ends up further amplifying your pain. And it can be worse than this because such stresses and fears feed back into the body to create even more tension and stress. This can aggravate illnesses and injuries, leading to even more pain. It also dampens down the immune system, so impairing healing. So you can all too easily become trapped in a vicious downward spiral that leads to ever greater suffering.

But even worse, such negative spirals can begin wearing tracks in the mind so that you become primed to suffer. Your brain begins fine-tuning itself to sense pain more quickly – and with greater intensity – in a futile bid to try to avoid the worst of it. Over time, the brain actually becomes better at sensing pain. Brain scans confirm that people who suffer from chronic pain have more brain tissue dedicated to feeling the conscious sensations of pain. It’s almost as if the brain has turned up the volume to maximum and doesn’t know how to turn it down again.
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It’s important to emphasise that Secondary pain is real. You do genuinely feel it. It’s only called Secondary pain because it is the mind’s reaction to Primary pain and has been heavily processed before you consciously feel it. But this same processing also gives you a way out; it means you can learn to gain control over your pain. For this reason, Secondary pain is best described as suffering.

In practice, you can be in pain but you need not suffer. Once you realise this, deep in your heart, then you can learn to step aside from your suffering and begin to handle pain very differently indeed. In effect, mindfulness hands back to you the volume control for your pain.
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The benefits of mindfulness on overall mental and physical health have been demonstrated in a wide range of scientific studies. Despite this, you might still be a little sceptical about meditation. When the word is mentioned a whole cascade of stereotypes can spring to mind: Buddhist monks, yoga classes, lentils, brown rice . . . So, before we proceed, we’d like to dispel some myths:
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• Mindfulness is not a religion. It is simply a form of mental training that has been proven in countless scientific trials to help people cope with pain, illness, anxiety, stress, depression, irritability and exhaustion.
• Meditation will not trick you into passivity or resign you to your fate. On the contrary, mindfulness boosts mental and physical resilience.
• Meditation will not seduce you into adopting a fake ‘positive’ attitude to life. It simply creates a form of mental clarity that helps you to enjoy life and achieve your goals.
• Meditation does not take a lot of time. The programme in our book takes around twenty minutes per day. In fact, many people find that it liberates more time than it consumes because they spend far less time having to cope with chronic pain, illness and stress.
• Meditation is not difficult or complicated, although it does require some effort and persistence. You can meditate on more or less anything (we even include a Coffee Meditation in our book). You can also do it virtually anywhere – on buses, trains, aircraft or even in the busiest office.
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Highly recommended by me!

Art featured: 1. Glass sculpture from Adrien Art 2. Alabaster candleholder from Brilliant Alabaster
3. Oil painting by Vincenzo Paolucci available through Count Vincenzo
4. Brain cap from Celtic Bubbles 5. Hemp sofa from Croft House
6. Sleep mask from Love Me Sugar 7. Meditation necklace from Love Jadeite 8. Teapot from Vianova